The world without (the outside) is an exact hard copy of the world within (the inside), or the soft copy. Beliefs are core programmesthat run in the mega computer known as The Mind. The magnitude of the power of a single thought is a drop, compared to the power of a million similar thoughts which become as commanding as the ocean. When many similar thoughts come together, they bond and form what is known as a belief. This belief is then anchored securely into the subconscious mind and becomes responsible for the reality you then experience. Thoughts become beliefs, beliefs then drive your behavior, behaviors turn into habits, and the summary of your habits dictate your destiny.
4. Why is God doing this to me!
Mini Solution: “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer. If you begin to look at your beliefs with a new and fresh perceptive, you may be surprised at what realizations follow!
I wonder when it was, that you learned to feel shame. It had to be somewhere between the ages of 0 and 7. When was the first time you felt embarrassed because you slipped or just tripped over something. Why did you feel that shame? Why did you go all red?
Answering those 2 questions are easy. You feel ashamed or embarrassed because you wonder what other people would say about you or even think about you. You worry you would be judged and labelled as silly or clumpsy or a little crazy or perhaps that they may even laugh at you.
Answering the very first question at the beginning of this message may be slightly difficult to answer and will take some time to uncover. It really doesn’t matter anyway.
What matters is that you feel this way.
You have trapped yourself into a prison without bars, which makes it harder for you to know that you are trapped. You cannot dress as you wish, you cannot say the things you want to say, you choose to not be yourself because someone else may think that who you are is stupid.
When did you take it upon yourself to believe slipping over an untied shoelace and falling to the ground was a shameful act? You surely learned this. Ignorance is bliss to the point that you know too much nonsense. Too much useless information that is hurting you rather than helping you. I have said repeatedly, that there is nothing to learn in life, but rather unlearn.
Falling down is okay. In fact what if falling down was beautiful? Who decided falling on your face was a terrible thing?
The beautiful thing about falling is that you open yourself up to be supported to get up again. And if there is no one around at that particular time, you learn that you are strong enough to pick yourself up!
Choose to no longer feel embarrassed or carry shame if you are weak, if you fail, if you lose, if you fall…
The weight of shame will hold you and keep you stuck where you are. It is far too heavy. Shame is not meant to be carried.
Let it go and be free. Whatever shame you are holding on to, it’s time to set yourself free from this self imposed prison.
You know you are not your thoughts, you are not your emotions, neither are you your job title. But you are also not your experience. You are the participant in the experience but are not the experience. Just as the character is in the story but not the story.
You must break free from identification of the experience or the story in order to feel peace. The moment you think you are the story you get pulled into the drama and so this is when the pain, worry and anxiety set in.
Breaking free from the experience means nothing defines how you feel in any moment. Whether you are currently unwell, struggling financially, have just gone through a break up, or lost someone. You are NOT the experience.
Remove yourself from it and remember who you really you.
Do not be defined by the experience. You decide how you wish to feel. No person, no circumstance, no experience has this power. Only you do.
Mohan H Surujbally
Many people say to me, they have relationship problems, financial problems, business problems and that list of problems go on.
I believe that no one has any of the above problems. They all suffer from one problem. They all have a commitment problem. When I say the word commitment, I am not talking about being faithful or not cheating. I am not even speaking of being loyal.
I define commitment as deciding what it is you desire, and then doing whatever it takes to make that desire a reality. This always means being extremely uncomfortable, feeling alot of pain, dealing with difficult and mean people, sacrificing things you love doing and sometimes not sleeping at all, or even having very little money or nothing in the bank account.
That is my definition of commitment.
If you commit to whatever it is you want, then you will do whatever it takes to make it possible. Whether it is to mend or improve a relationship or create a better financial situation. Commit to finding a solution, then commit to the action that is required. If you commit, the result you are wish for is 100% gaurenteed.
Most people unfortunately are committed to pain, victim hood, misery, heart ache, debt, and failure.
For me, success is not something that is measured or has an end result. Success is simply committing to the dreams of you heart. It is committing to singing your heart’s song.
So tell me again…that you have a relationship or financial problem?
I am so excited that today I will be one of the first few thousand in the world to watch Avengers: Age of Ultron. The Avengers come together to fight their biggest nemesis yet, Ultron.
In the past, the Avengers were fighting external threats. This time, the threat is their own creation. Ultron is an artificial intelligence created by Tony Stark (Iron Man) who is programmed to do one task, and that is deliver World Peace.
However, Ultron’s methods are questionable.He believes that by annihilating all humans, there will be world peace. I want to be bold and say, that this doesn’t necessarily make him the “evil” or bad. I say this for 2 reasons. The first is that, in light of the xenophobic attacks in South Africa, perhaps getting rid of humans from this planet may be a good thing. I am definitely not proud to claim that I am part of this human race. If you get rid of all humans on this planet, there will no doubt be world peace. Secondly, Ultron is doing exactly what he was created to do, ensure that there is World Peace.
Until this morning, I never saw the flaw in wanting World Peace. Can you see it?
World Peace is not something we want, do we? What we want is inner peace or peace of mind. When we have peace of mind, when we are internally in a state of bliss and peace, then automatically, without any effort, there will be peace on the outside. If we shift from wanting there to be peace in the world, to working on developing peace within ourselves, there can be peace in the world, with us human beings in it as well.
I declare I do not wish for World Peace. I wish for inner peace for every individual in this world. The wise will see the wisdom in those words for inner peace leads to outer peace.
Now if only the Miss Universe contestants will read this message…
See you at the movies!
We all have a super power called choice. At any given moment we can choose our thoughts, our emotions and how we perceive and therefore experience anything in our lives. The ability to choose separates those who experience peace from those who experience worry and anxiety.
However, a deeper inspection into this ability we have of choice leads me to believe that we may be spoilt for choice. In fact this very super power can easily become our kryptonite.
While it might serve you to choose either getting upset when someone says something horrible to you or choose not giving a damn about what was said – this power may not serve you well in the case when you need to get up at 5am for your morning run or choose to stay in bed because it is cold.
In this example you do have the power to choose and it is easier to choose sleeping in, than waking up and going for the run. Here the power to choose is not supporting you in your greatest life.
I believe that if we move from having the ability to choose, to not having a choice at all, we can easily shift lives. I once said that “Success is only a choice is failure is an option.” That very anecdote may be the solution to living a very different life than the one you have now.
Imagine if you set upon a challenge and the only choice you had or the only option you had was to succeed no matter what. Yes you will have results which are not desired along the way, but you will keep moving forward until you succeed. This is similar to when Edison said he did not fail 10 000 times before he “invented” the light bulb, he merely found 10 000 ways to not make a light bulb.
When we eliminate the option or choice of failure, success becomes inevitable. You can only succeed. There is no other choice. You can and you will succeed.
Here are some choices you may face daily. It is up to you to completely eliminate one.
Eat the cheese burger. Not to eat the cheeseburger.
Go to gym. Sleep an extra hour.
Write the book. Not to write the book.
Quit smoking. Smoke more one.
Lose 5kg. Put on 5kg.
When all you hear is the voice of power, then the voices of criticism, opinions and so called facts, negativity gets faded into the distant background until you hear it no more. This puts you in the driver’s seat of your life. You get to decide the life you wish to live.
Commit to a great life. Commit to choosing the one option only that opens up the door to greatness.
Affirm the following: The only choice I have is to live and lead an incredible and empowered life.
Today I completely give up my need to be right. In doing so, I choose peace. I no longer need to defend my opinion, my beliefs or my religious views, or force my ideas onto anyone.
When I am no longer needing to be right, I cannot engage in an argument with anyone or being insulted or hurt by anyone. I move in acceptance and love. My EGO does not have any power over me.
The need to be right means I live within limits and closed mindedness. I have closed my heart to new concepts and to people. I am rigid and find it difficult to make friends or for that matter keep friends.
The need to be right cost’s me opportunities, peace of mind and my happiness.
Today and everyday from this point, I choose to not need to be right in every conversation I have with anyone I engage with.
I choose to let it be and therefore be free.
Do you know that some people do not know how to be happy? These people are so used to misery, they will do everything within their power to stay miserable. Misery is the only familiar thing to them and this becomes their default emotion.
These people have a set of rules which they live by and have a need to prove to the world how right they are about how their life is . They want to say to the world, “Look, no one loves me, no one cares about me, they treat me bad, I am nothing, I am treated like dirt.” They go on to say “Now can you see how I am a victim of my life? I have no choice but to be miserable!”
The expected response from the person that the story is being told to is, “Oh no, you are so right, poor you, shame!”
The moment they get this reply, the story teller receives a false sense of being loved. Pity and sympathy are confused for love, and when this is the case, the feeling of being loved, does not last and so the story telling and self sabotage must continue so that more pity and sympathy can be received.
This is a very sad case indeed. This person doing this will always create situations or even attract situations that reflect their inner thoughts and feelings. They have gotten so used to not knowing what it means to be loved, that pain becomes a drug. They become addicts to misery. In fact in some cases they may even require a daily dose of their fix. No matter how well things will be going for them, no matter how wonderful their relationships are, they will say something or interpret an event to be miserable, leaving the other person rather confused as to what just happened.
So, what do you do if you are this type of person and what do you do to deal with this sort of person?
If you are this person:
You are allowing your past to dictate your present experience. You do not have to live your present moment through the memories of the past. You can start anew now and create something incredible now. People are not out to get you. Most people are kind by default. All arguments or hurt is generally caused some misunderstanding. Instead of getting angry,try communicating and expressing yourself more. You may discover that the intentions of the other person was not vindictive in any way. Know that you are loved regardless of circumstance or what you can offer the world or someone. You are loved for you. You do not need to earn it or do anything to deserve it. You are loved unconditionally. Surround yourself by people that love you in such a way until you become the source of love yourself and your addiction to misery is cured.
If you are the person dealing with the misery addict:
Treat them the way you would treat any addict. You do not allow them to die or to destroy their life. You do not have to play their game and be dragged along for the drama. Choose to be the best friend or support structure for them. Continuously give them love. Sometimes this may have to be a bit of tough love. Constantly remind them that they are loved. You can even imagine love being sent to their heart from yours. We are all connected energetically. Your intention for them to feel loved will be felt, even on on subtle level. Do not allow them to determine how you experience your day. If you allow them to decide your mood for the day, then you are just as powerless as they are. You are letting your own happiness lie in the hands of external situation or person.
If you require support, please message me and I will be honored to support you no matter which side of the fence you are on.
Life is a journey, or is it? If life is a journey then it means we are moving from one location to another. The problem with that is that we believe we have to go somewhere, do something and be with someone. My understanding is that this is not the case, as there is nowhere to go, as you have already arrived. Wherever you are meant to do, you are already doing, and whoever you are meant to have in your life, you already do. I doubt many would argue with the truth that you are exactly where you need to be, for if you needed to be somewhere else then you would be somewhere else; is this not true?
So then, if we have already arrived, is Life then a destination? To reach a destination means we have reached the end. Life has no beginning nor end, like a circle it continues to go on and on. How can you end when you do not even know when and how you had begun anyway?
If life is neither a destination nor a journey, what then is life? What you are looking for is definition. You want to define life. To define a thing, is to confine a thing. It becomes this and only this, and cannot be any more than the definition. It becomes limited, conditional, finite. We do this with relationships, love, and even God. What if life had no definition? What if life had no meaning? We are always searching for reason and meaning, to make sense of a thing or situation. What if there was none? Who is really searching for these answers? It is the mind. When it finds that answer, it will ask for the next, and then when that answer is found it will look for the next. It will go on and on in this way. All this wasted energy on thinking. We need to stop thinking. All problems exist because we think. If you stopped thinking, your problems will disappear. All your worries and your fears will go away. I am not saying do not solve challenges or be creative. I am saying stop the senseless thinking. The quieter your mind becomes, the more you listen to the music of your soul.
We want know the meaning of life, because we are in a relationship with life. If we do not understand and know someone, we do not want to engage in any kind of relationship with them. This is however not true with life or God for that matter. We have to understand ourselves, before we understand Life. You see whatever you are, life is. You are life. You give life, you experience life, you engage with life. Your understanding of yourself will determine the type of relationship with life. This will either be miserable or enjoyable.
Life is. Love is. God is.
What if I told you that everything you desire is right in front of you?
We cannot have access to the thing we desire for 2 simple reasons:
1. We make up stories that we do not have it.
2. We close our eyes to seeing it.
Let’s say you wanted to experience a sunny day. You make up a story that your blinds do not open or that you cannot find the key to your front door. Eventually you manage to get over your stories and you open the blinds but now you close your eyes. In both cases, the end result is that you do not see the sun.
The same principle applies for Love.
It is always available to us, but we close our heart to experiencing it. We label love differently – romantic love, motherly love, divine love, brotherly love – Love is one, however perception and reception of it is many. Your ability to receive it or willingness to receive it will determine the love you experience. Any time there is a prefix to the word Love, you are only getting a piece of Love. A slice of pizza is not the pizza. It is only a single piece. Love is the whole, the entirety, the completeness. There is no difference between the way your mother loves you and the way your partner loves you. How you interpret that love is defined by your own stories and filters. Which leaf of a tree is loved more by the tree? You cannot say. Each is loved equally.
Whether it is Love you desire or anything else that you wish to experience, it is all the same. Open your eyes or open you heart, your arms your self to seeing it and receiving it! This brings you to Vision. “Without Vision, the people will perish.”
If I showed you a seed in my hand, what would you say I hold in my hand? To the ordinary person, it’s just a seed, to the extraordinary person with vision, it is a forest. To a business minded person it may be a new furniture store. I am still only holding a seed in my hand, but it’s your vision that transforms it.
What else, today, in this moment is standing literally in front of you that you either do not see or take for face value or see no value. My vision for my work has always been Information-Inspiration-
There are any infinite opportunities that make themselves available to us every minute of every day. But if we are too busy being too busy, or just lack the vision then you will never notice them. Just because you have the gift of sight does mean you have vision.
Trans-form is to change the form. To make it something other than what it is.
To bake a cake you transform flour, butter, salt, egg, milk. To make a success* you transform opportunities, people, resources, ideas, skills, time and energy.
The answer is simple. But the cake isn’t baking itself. Neither does success just show up. Get to it! Get to work. Get going. Begin. Go.
Mohan H Surujbally
*Success to me is waking up everyday day with peace in your heart knowing you do what you love and love what you do. It is independent of money. Money will flow as a byproduct of your success. It is not the measure of success.