Archive for February, 2013
This year on Valentine’s Day, I am what people would call “single”. I don’t like that term very much. To me single means there is something missing, as if I am incomplete and separate. However the truth is, I feel very much complete, whole, connected and everywhere I look, I see love. I have either been very blessed/lucky to love and be loved my entire life OR I always look for the love, and I find it. I prefer to accept the latter. We always find what we look for, no?
There are many that claim that Valentine’s Day has become commercialised. Maybe that’s true…
BUT isn’t that a judgement against people who have found a way to make money? Who is holding a gun to your head asking you to buy your partner a gift? Is it the adverts you see on TV or listen to on radio? While the media has some effect on our lives, I think we should take responsibility for our own lives. There was a time in my life, where I did not have a single cent to buy a gift for my partner. I did not bitch and moan about how Valentine’s Day just a money making thing, just because I had no money at that time. If you say it is, you really just don’t have money. Be honest about it. If you love someone, you want to shower them with gifts. Everyone loves getting gifts and that’s the truth. However during my challenging days, I was open and honest with my partner about where I was financially. I communicated. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship. When times are tough, focus on the things that money CAN’T buy. Spending time with your partner, telling them how much you love and appreciate them. Hold them. Say I LOVE YOU. The most romantic date I have ever been on, involved a KFC R2 cream, which we SHARED in my car, in the middle of the city.
There are also those that claim that there shouldn’t be a need for Mother’s day, or Father’s Day, or even Valentine’s Day, because, we should be showing love to these people in our lives everyday. While this is true, the people that say the above, live in a fantasy world. We live busy, crazy, mad lives! I definitely do not show LOVE and give my TIME to my parents or partners, family and friends everyday. I am so glad that these days exist, where time is given to us, it is created for us, to express our love and appreciation to our loved ones.
Then there are people that say that we shouldn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day at all, because Valentine was a man who slept with his partner before been married to her. A sin in the Big 5 religions of the world. He has SEX before marriage. I speak for myself when I say, that when I love someone, I feel the need to express myself physically with someone. I would like to make love to them. (Not that I sleep with everyone I date, and making love does not always mean penetration!) So I ask you “Why we be hating?” It’s called MAKING LOVE, not having sex. Have we lost the plot?
Valentine’s Day is a day to love, to be loved, to express love, to share love, to BE LOVE.
Love yourself, for all you are, accept yourself for all that you are and all that you are not. Remember that when loves flows through you, it will flow to you! As I mentioned in my first book, “When there is an implosion of love in your heart, there will be an explosion of love in your life.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you. May your heart always be open to see that love is all around you, right here, right now.
I love you,
“You have no right to complain!” This was the thought in my head all day today. What gives us the right to complain? To complain about anything. I decided to take a little breather, and go out for a while – the last few weeks have been a bit crazy, so it was great to be out. I didn’t realise though, that the Universe wanted to teach me another lesson in gratitude & about the nature of reality.
Today, I saw I boy, about 25 years old, in a pram. I am not sure what was wrong with him, but his mother was pushing him in it. He did not look like he could move much or even speak, perhaps just a few sounds that represented words and some simple head movements.
A few thoughts flashed before me at that instance. I thought to myself, that this boy, who may have so many dreams, might never get to live them. He might not able to do the things that make his heart sing. He may never fall in love and share love with a girl. He may never drive a Porsche, he may never….and at that point, I made this about me, which we all do. I thought about my own aspirations, my own dreams and hearts desires. I am in a much better position and can do almost ANYTHING…and then I stopped again, and returned my focus back to the boy and a new thought entered my mind. This time it was more of a voice and it said the following to me:
“Hitesh, life is nothing more than an illusion. A game that is being played; a movie that is being screened. There are no main actors. There isn’t even a director. There is no script. People you meet are just like 2 ships passing at a port. The relationship is temporary. The experience you have with them eventually becomes a memory. When it’s over, it’s hard to believe that it actually happened. Some people will shift your life in amazing ways, some people won’t matter that much. It doesn’t matter what role they play in your life, love them with all you have. The purpose of life…IS TO LOVE. Do you get it? It’s only to love. To love everything & everyone. Not everyone will get to live great lives, but they can live their lives greatly; and you know Hitesh – it’s perfectly okay, if even from here on, you accomplish nothing that the world sees as success, all that matter is that you love. After all, it needn’t matter what great things you do, all that matters is that you love greatly. It doesn’t matter who thinks what of you, or what you have, or where you are going from here, all that matters is that you find ways in which you can love and serve. What is there to complain about? Look at your life, look at the beauty, how blessed you are, you see the sun, you can breathe, your heart still beats, you can think for yourself, you have friends, you are not alone, you have food to eat, you have a place to sleep tonight, you can sleep, you can drink water…Hitesh you are so blessed. Release yourself from judgment of self, release yourself from guilt, release yourself of past hurt and memories that are really illusions that played out in your mind. Be present in this moment, be thankful for each breath you take, breathe in THANK, breathe out, YOU – can you do this Hitesh? I love you Hitesh, always remember that….”
All of this happened in the blink of an eye. I am blessed to share this with you.
Whether I know you personally or not, whether you have read my books, or attended my seminars, know that I love you, as you are me, and I am you – and I love every part of myself and I pray that you do too.