Archive for May, 2012
One of my greatest mentors, Wayne Dyer, says that if you have infinite patience, you will receive immediate results. What does he mean by this?
I can tell you what he does not mean. He does not mean, if you wish for something, and you have practice infinite patience, you will immediately get what you want. So then what does he mean? Well you answer that questions, we need to understand what people really want. They are not after anything physical. People do not want cars, houses, money or relationships. What they want are feelings. You do not want the car, you want the feeling that comes with having a car (you might feel successful), you don’t want a relationship; you want to feel loved. If you could find other things in life that gave you that feeling, you would not want those things anymore. Human beings LINK emotions to objects and then give that link meaning. It is how we perceive and view the world. We do it for absolutely everything in our reality.
So when we practice infinite patience, we get immediate results. That result is PEACE. We no longer worry about when what we want will manifest, we know it is on our way. Notice I did not say “we believe it is on our way” there is a huge difference between knowing and believing. I will cover that in another blog post something. When we practice infinite patience, we no longer hold onto the lie that when I have this thing I will feel a certain way – you can begin to feel it NOW. It is this feeling that accelerates the speed at which what you desire is attracted to you and shortens the distance as well.
We are eternal beings with an infinite number of lifetimes to experience whatever we desire.
Stay as awesome as you are!
Love you always,
I recently removed all the hair from my head – leaving me quite bare on the top. This is just something I just decided to do – I love doing different and spontaneous things. It felt pretty awesome. However when my friends and family saw what I had done – the comments ranged from one of shock, to disgust, to “oh God what have you done” to one comment that led me to write this little blog post – “Can you honestly tell me you can look into the mirror and say you love yourself?”
My answer to that question was an immediate YES. Why would I not be able to love myself? The place from which this question was asked is the place most people in the world are. They love themselves only when they look and feel a certain way, and they love themselves only when they get the approval of other people. When you love yourself this way – you never ever experience the real essence of love. You experience what is called pseudo love.
Anytime you open your heart to love and gratitude – you immediately open the door to infinite possibilities. You open the doorway to heaven where are riches can be yours. Love yourself with or without hair on your head, Love yourself with or without money, love yourself with or without a job, love yourself with or without a partner, love yourself for having a big bum or having a funny looking nose, love yourself for who you are right here, right now and let go of caring about what people think or say. Each day, none of those people face the challenges you face for you, and none of them walk the path you walk for you.
Appreciate and value you for being as awesome as you are, because who you are is the best that you can be today – and when tomorrow comes you can do your best to be better than you were yesterday. That is all that is asked of you.
Go on and love yourself – no matter what.
I love you – Hitesh
There is nothing and no one in our reality that is not a reflection of what we are. We only see things (situations) or people that reflect our inner most dominant thoughts. Think of people in your life like mirrors. When we do this, we come to see that no one does anything to us, that we do not do to other people or we do not do to ourselves – either consciously or unconsciously.
We then lose the victim role and stop blaming other people for what they do to us. When we look into the “mirror” we see that which we are, that which we judge and that which we deny ourselves to be. You will inituially see things which you will deny that are in you. Are you mean, nasty, cold, bitter, bitchy, stubborn, irritating, close minded….etc? Are you? Maybe not ALL THE TIME, but in some cases you are. These characteristics are not in the person that you see it in ALL THE TIME as well. It is only there at certain times. You will also notice that people show up in your reality around things that you judge. If you judge people who are too fanatic about their religion, you are sure to find them plenty in your reality.
They will always show up until you let go of the judgment and respect and love the people or situation. Like I always say – the Universe is only trying to get you to love yourself and to see love all around you. It will do whatever it takes to get you to do this. It will FORCE you to love. All prayer is answered, just never in the form that we want it in. What you see in another is in you. If you see success in another – that means that very success lies in you. You too have the ability to tap into this greatness that lies within you and live your best life. It would not be there if it wasn’t in you. Feels great knowing that you can be as successful as Bill Gates or Donald Trump!
Pay attention to happens and what you see when you are feeling terrible. Notice what you see when you have your heart broken? How many people around you have relationship issues? Notice what you see when you feeling down? How many people around you suddenly have more problems? Notice what you see when you feeling excited to be alive? How many people are smiling and friendly towards you?
You are that which you see…this is a magical law of the universe. I am certain this little message will help you understand your universe better.
I love you always, Hitesh
I am inspired today to give you a message about how amazing you are and to remind that deep within you resonates a desire and a yearning to do something truly magical and amazing. This feeling inside, is to follow you heart. Do all you can to make your dreams a reality.
My motto is, I will make all of my dreams come true, or I will at least die trying.
Nothing is sadder than to spend your life wishing you could do things and never attempt to get them done. It recently occurred to be that while I am young at heart, and will always have the free spirit of a child and the energy of a happy dog set free – my physical body does not have forever on this planet. When you are in your teens you think that you will live forever – as you hit your late 20’s you realize – where did all the time go? Wow! Has life gone by so fast? You start asking yourself questions that are quite life changing – like, Am I doing what I love? Am I enjoying my life? Am I living each day with celebration and joy?
For many people this is far from the case. Do you even realize that most people spend the majority of their lives stressing and worrying, working hard or just plain suffering only to retire “comfortably” at 65 and die 2 years later. We spend our entire lives working instead of living and in the end, we just never get to the real important stuff – Loving the people we have in our lives, following our hearts & taking the time to admire the beauty and wonder of our world – until it’s too late.
This is a loving reminder to you. I am asking you today – what song do you have to sing? The symphony is waiting for your cue. The world is waiting to hear your music. The curtain has risen, the lights on the on – microphone check!
Life passes us by to quick – so before you leave this world – share with all your music and touch the lives of the people, touch their hearts – because when you do what you love and simply love what you do – you unconsciously inspire others to do the same. You want to change the world? You first.
Please do not die; with your music in you.
Your biggest fan,
The words “what if” have been used a lot from a negative or fear based perspective. For example: “what if this goes wrong? Or what if I fail? Or what if it does not work out?” I have had many people tell me to remove these 2 words from my vocabulary and at that time, I had thought that this was GREAT advice! However, some days later, I was contemplating this advice that I was given. I am not someone who just takes advice. I always listen first. If it sounds good, I implement it, but I also think about it much more. If I had listened to everybody’s advice of the last 29 years, I would be really confused by now! No matter what you hear or read for that matter – keep an open mind and decide for yourself. That way, 2 things happen – 1. You make decisions by yourself and 2. You take responsibility for your life & therefore cannot be a victim of someone else’s bad advice if something happens to go wrong down the line.
So upon contemplation, it dawned on that words are just words – which we give meaning to. So I thought what if the words “what if” were given positive power and I used it as a tool to create success in my life!? Could it be possible to use these words to open my life to infinite possibilities?
The answer to that question is a 100% YES I CAN. So what I started to do was, every time I heard other people or even myself say “what if” in a negative context, I would counter act it with a positive phrase. For example if someone said to me:
What if it is not possible? I would say what if it is possible?
Say those two phrases aloud. Go on. Say it. Can you feel how different the two are? The former makes you feel small and insignificant while the latter makes you excited and you want to take action. You cannot deny this.
Words are just words UNTIL we give them power. I have never heard of a Gun killing anyone. Have you? Guns do not fire themselves. It is a tool. A tool that is used to kill, by a PERSON. Words are tools too. Use them wisely. A person does become what he talks about all day. What are you internally talking about? What are you externally talking about? Thoughts become words, words become actions, and actions become your destiny. So again I ask you, WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT today?
Here are some powerful WHAT IF phrases you can use in your life:
What if it is possible?
What if I can?
What if it does work out?
What if they say yes?
What if I do win?
What if they love me?
What if I can do great things with my life?
What if today can be the best day of my life?
What if I can be healed?
What if all my dreams can become a reality?
What if this is happening for my highest good?
Have an awesome day!
Usually when I am asked to write an article or blog – I take some time to think about what message I want to share. However, when the publishers of this magazine approached me to write an article, I was very clear and certain about what I needed to write about.
The initial thought that came to mind was “There is no separation between you and God.” I have studied all of the worlds prominent religions and all of the messiahs that came to earth, from Bhuddha, Jesus, Allah to Krishna; all said in some form or the other that not only are we all One, but we are also One with the Divine.
One of the worlds greatest poets that ever lived, William Blake, once said
To See a World in a grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.”
What if I said to you that not only are you in the Universe, but the Universe is in you? What if I said to you that not only is the drop in the ocean, but the entire ocean exists in the drop. From all the text I have researched and studied, there is no doubt in my heart that within you lies a force so great and powerful that you cannot imagine, perceive or understand it with the human mind. There are no adjective words that we can use to describe what this is, inside each and every one of us. Although there are 2 words that give you a small glimpse into what this is: Love & Truth.
Man’s quest since the beginning of time has been to understand who he is and for that matter where God is. He has searched lands far away, mountain tops, places of worship, long and deep rivers. This journey has been unfruitful, up until the time, that that journey turns inwards. It has been said God placed the mystery of who you are inside of you. God placed himself in you. So in essence what you have been searching for is Truth; and what is the Truth? The Truth is everything is Love and all else is illusion and that you are nothing but a being of Love & Light.
Many people are uncomfortable with the idea that God is within us and that there is no separation between you and God. People become even more edgy when you tell them, “You are God ”. We have been brought up to believe that we need to FEAR God or have been told to feel guilty as we are sinners and that we are very bad people. This cannot be true if God is Love. Is there anyone who can argue that God is NOT Love? On that premise, can light and darkness exist in the same room? No. If there is light, there is no darkness, if there is darkness, there is no light. Similarly; where there is Fear, there is no Love and where there is Love, there is no Fear. The only difference between you and God, is that you do not know that you are God. Just to be clear here, when I speak of God – I do not mean a physical being with a personality that controls, judges and punishes. I speak of a force of just pure Love & Light. That is it. There is nothing complicated about it.
Without going into detail, quantum physics says that we live in a reality that is non local co-related. What this means is that is there a field that exists that unifies us all and that there is no separation between anything or anybody. This is the “we are all one” philosophy that spirituality has been speaking about. You see the world without is a reflection of the world within. There is no out there, out there, independent of what is in here! Everything is part of who you are. Think of the entire universe or world as one living organism. You may see planets separated, or you may see mountains and rivers that exist seemingly independent, but this is not true. Do not be fooled. They are all connected. If you still finding it difficult to understand; take a look at your body. Is your hand separate from you? No. Are you are you hand? No. Can you call your body a “body” without the hand? No. In this example you are the body, but the body is also God. When you look at the body, there is no difference between you and God. All you see is a BODY.
The message that I am giving you here today, is that you are a being of Love, and Love is God & God is Love. At any moment in time, you have a connection to this source or energy. You are never alone in whatever you do. You have God by your side. If God be for you, who can be against you? Take on each task and challenge in your life with absolute certainty and faith, because within you is God. He has never left you, and will never do so. I am telling you this is truth and I know it to be true because I feel the love of God flowing through my body as I write this.
Stay blessed and remember to…
Be great always,
Imagine, it’s a rainy cold day. You family and friends are all together. All are weeping. “Why did he have to go?”
They each pay their last respects to the deceased in the coffin. Who is this person that they morn for?
IT IS YOU!
Yesterday you passed away in hospital due to an illness. However, it does not matter how you died. It matters that you are dead. So, that is it then. It’s all over. Your days on earth are no more. Something tells me that you are not too happy. You are not ready to go right? I mean, there is so much for you have not done. What about that fight you just had with your best friend? You didn’t have a chance to apologise after storming off and not talking to her? What about your dreams? You just need one more year to make it all one. Perhaps just one more day to make amends for all the wrong you did.Alas.It is too late my dear friend. I will see you in heaven one day.
Now, stop imagining. WAKE UP. The power that be has given you a second and last chance. You are reborn! CONGRATULATIONS!
How great do you feel knowing you are alive again? I keep saying again and again, that most people are afraid of dying; I think that you should be more afraid of not living.
Do you know that you are a miracle? The greatest miracle that ever walked upon this earth is you. The power to achieve greatness and the strength and determination to live beyond fantasy and turn dreams into reality.
Every moment brings with it a chance to make a decision to choose. At any given moment there are an infinite number of choices to make. However, mot of the time, we narrow them down to just 2. It is either, do it, or don’t do it. Eat or don’t eat. Be happy or choose to be sad. You see, you have complete control over your emotions and your thoughts. Right now you have the power to be happy. How can one pursue happiness when happiness is already available to you? Happiness is a state of mind not a journey.
So I ask you now, every minute of every day, you think about the choices you have and choose the ones that make you feel good.
Choose to love rather than hate.
Choose to laugh rather than cry.
Choose to create rather than destroy.
Choose to persevere rather than quit.
Choose to praise rather than gossip.
Choose to heal rather than hurt.
Choose to pray rather than curse.
Choose to live, rather than die!
My dear friend, know that you are capable of great wonders. Your potential is unlimited. You are not a human being, but a human becoming. Who else among the creatures that walked the earth created fire? Who else, among the creatures conquered gravity? Has pierced the heavens and has conquered disease?
Only human beings.
Are you any different from Albert Einstein? Benjamin Franklin? Ghandi? Mandela? No.
You are but the same flesh and blood with the same emotions and intellectual capabilities. The only difference between them and you are the choices they made.
Choices that can lead to success or stress.
Remember when you were younger you would say, “When I grow up I want to…”
Well, guess what? THAT TIME HAS COME. But nothing has happened. However, we like to prolong things, and now say, “When I get married then I will…” or “When I retire I will have the….” Then the years go by and before you know it, life is no more. Nothing gets done. So, make the choice to be great now and act upon it.
You cannot change the past by worrying about it , but you can spoil your present moment by worry about the future.
You have performed the greatest miracle in the world today. You got up and decided to live. You have returned from a living death. You will feel self pity no more and each day will be a challenge and a joy.
You have been born again, and just as before you can choose failure and despair, success and happiness
Remember then the four laws of happiness and success.
Count your blessings.
Proclaim your rarity.
Go another mile.
Use wisely your power of choice.
And one more to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love, love for others and love for yourself.
YOU ARE THE GREATEST MIRACLE IN THE WORLD
Be great always,
Parents claim to love their children. But quiet frankly do they? A parent is parent until a child is able to think and made sound decisions on their own. There comes a time when a parent loses that role and then the child becomes an adult. There is no parent to child relationship anymore but a person to person relationship.
Let’s start by defining what a parent is. A parent is someone who nurtures their child, instilling good values, beliefs, ethics and morals into them. As well as providing for the basic needs of the child, visa food, shelter, education, clothes and love.
Once this role of a parent is over, all that is needed to be given is love.
Parents sometimes give a little too much their desire to “love” or give becomes over excessive and this turns into spoiling. The parents’ want to prevent their child from getting into danger becomes over protectiveness and interferes with their need to explore the world.
This is more a case of being in control and becomes overbearing in the latter years of the child as they become independent. The parent wants to resume this role of being PARENT. So they continue to try to protect, control and force what they feel is right over the child. They want their child to always want their help.
“Whether you’re 8 or 80, I’m still your mother and I know what’s best for you!”
When parents cannot get their way with the child they will send the child on a guilt trip by criticizing and disapproving of the choices they may have made.
Life is all about choices. You never know what is good or what is bad. The Law of Balance tells us that there is neither good nor bad, thinking makes it so and that it’s all about perception. Therefore you can never make the wrong choice, simply choices that lead to you growing along the spiritual path. Understand that are but a piece of wood. Sometimes all that life is doing is taking a hammer and chisel and having a go at you, taking away parts of you. Life is simply carving a master piece out of you. A parent will say that they want their child to never suffer. WHY? Suffering is a wonderful thing. It is through tragedy that I have grown. It is only through times of hardship that I have learned the meaning of life. Had I not suffered, had I not been through hardship I most likely would not be where I am today.
Olives are pressed to get oil, Fruits are squeezed for juice, & Flowers are crushed 4 perfume! Can you see how the world works?
A parent thinks they are truly loving and caring, and they ACTUALLY believe it! However they are more concerned about keeping their role as a parent. It is never about the child. It is about them. It is all about EGO. This power that they had over the child for more than two decades cannot be lost, understandably so. If you were a manager of a company for that long and were suddenly told your service is no longer required, take a back seat, you would do anything to want to stay in that position!
Sometimes a parent would want the child to do something that the parent themselves could not do. “I want you to have more than I did” “I want to be successful so that I can look successful too” They want to achieve and live their dreams through you.
A parent would say, “I have done so much for you, suffered for you…and all I ask is you do this. I know what the best thing is for you and I will continue to love you as long as you do what I say”
What non sense is that? Love? Pseudo love yes. CONDITIONAL LOVE!. It is not true love. Love that is free from expectations, circumstances and outcome. Love that is just love without wanting any back. That is how parents should love. That is how anyone should love! Not love that is based on terms or conditions when and if it suits you!
If your parent is doing this to you, do not give them this article to read. Indirectly perhaps, yes. Leave it somewhere where they find it by chance. I am telling you this because whenever we try to tell someone they are wrong, they put up a brick wall. They put up a defense.
As you may well know, what you resist must and will persist! The more you try to fight something the stronger it gets. That is why THE WAR AGAINST CRIME, only leads to more crime. THE WAR AGAINST TERRORISM, you get more terror. We keep feeding the crime and terror with fear and anger. It is going to give us just that!
What you can do, however, have this renewed understanding as to why your parents are doing this. Perhaps when you are also are parent you will understand more deeply what I am saying. Simply do not react to what they say.
You are now responsible, grown up, independent, smart, mature and capable of surviving in the world. You do not need their approval for anything. You are your own person and have to make the decisions that best suit you. Remove that negative thought that you cannot be happy unless you have their support and blessing.
Ignore and replace any other thoughts that come into your mind. Words that may have been spoken to you by your parents, “You will never amount to anything,” “You are never going to make it” and such. These are all in the past. Live in the present. When you live in the present then you live in love. Living in the past means you are living in guilt.
Do not live in the present through the mask of the past. LIVE IN THE NOW!
The strange thing about relationships that we have with parents is that this is the first relationships we experience in the world. It is these relationships that define the relationships we have in the future with our love partners, in business, at work on the sports field. So if you wish to understand the relationships in your life, analyze the relationship that you shared with your parent.
Parents want to give so much. However there is one thing that they sometimes fail to give their child. FREEDOM. Freedom to choose. Freedom to be themselves. Freedom to make mistakes. Freedom to grow. Freedom to learn. Freedom to be human. Freedom just to be.
Be great always, and always live in love,
An atom will only bond with another atom if they either have electrons to give or they need electrons to complete their electron shell making them complete. It is a give and take situation. The amount of energy and time needed to form a bond is less compared to the vast amount of energy and time required to break this bond once formed.
Is the above a lecture on high school chemistry or is it out of a book on a guide to love?
In reality, what are human beings? We are whole, then we can be broken down to the various systems, the systems are made up of organs, the organs comprise of tissue, tissue is further broken down to cells, cells are made up of macro molecules, then you get micro molecules and then atoms. So, you and are merely atoms that are interacting with one another, forming and breaking bonds.
However we are much more than just atoms randomly interacting in some space and time dimension. Human beings are far more complex. They have the ability to feel various wonderful and disastrous emotions, they can cognate, philosophise and do this thing called thinking.
Each one of us has in built within us, a set of values or beliefs. We are programmed to live according to these values and beliefs. This determines how we view the world, how we react when someone does something to us, be it good or bad, and what makes us feel happy or sad.
No two people have the exact same values in the world, if they do, one is not necessary. There is one person in the world that has the exact opposite values of you and the purpose of marriage is to have you meet this personJ
Every human being has a strong need to live according to their values. Therefore in reality no one actually does anything wrong to you. They are simply living according to their values and the hurt you may feel is because they have violated one of your own values. Right and wrong are both philosophical polarities that have been injected into our belief systems by society, religious law, family, and friends. So you determine what is right and wrong based on your own experience. Your values and beliefs are therefore not necessarily right or wrong. They are just that, beliefs and values.
When we are in a relationship with someone they stay in the relationship because you are living or reacting in accordance with their values. Every relationship has a tolerance zone. The moment you push too much against their values they leave you. If something better comes along that acts more in accordance to their values, they leave you. The key to having a success and lasting relationship is to communicate to them in terms of their values and beliefs.
Lets use an example to clarify what I am talking about.
Susan friend had just phoned her to tell her the fantastic news. Their employer has booked all of the female staff to a day at a beauty spa, all expenses paid courtesy of the company. Susan was really excited as pampering and spoiling herself was on her top list of things to do. The date was set for 10 November.
Brian her boyfriend had called her one hour later. He had just heard that was to receive an award for outstanding work in his research and he was to be presented with a gift on the 10 November. He wanted Susan to be there as he loved her and this was to be the one of the most memorable moments in his life and he wanted to share that with her.
Susan had a dilemma. It is not often that she gets a free day at a beauty spa. It was a priceless opportunity. Further more she would have extra time to spend with her friends. Can you already see the fight and argument that can arise here?
Susan explains her situation to Brian. She suggests that they could perhaps celebrate the following day with supper.
Now Brian could get upset. Susan has violated his values. He believes that you should be there for the one you lobe no matter the plans you have. He had missed an important business opportunity because Susan wanted him to be there for her graduation. However, he was there for her. How could she not want to be there for him now? Does Susan love him less? No. Not at all. She is simply acting in accordance to her values. So how does Brian get what he wants? He needs to communicate to Susan in terms of her values. You have to link what you want to what they want. You cannot simply live a life according to their values. When you do this you are desperately trying not to lose that person, but in the end you lose yourself. You stop being you. So this is what Brian tells Susan.
“Honey, I understand, but let me tell you what I had planned.”
“What is it honey bunny?” asks Susan.
“Well, you see my pumpkin pie, the meeting was inGauteng, and I had intended to fly up business class with you. I had made arrangements with the Hilton Hotel and booked us into the honeymoon suite. We would have access to a masseuse, the heated pool, dinner cooked by one of the finest chefs in the world. We would have our own private Jacuzzi to relax in and we would make love for hours. To add that, I was going to take to shopping to get you that new Gucci dress and a pair of those Prada shoes that you wanted. So sweet pea, if you still want to go for that day at the beauty spa, I really understand. I love you.
What do you think Susan did? Of course she went with him! Now use the principal here to understand where your partner is coming from, to get what you want, and to live a more harmonious relationship.
There are 5 aspects that make up a relationship. They are: physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and psychological. Unless you can balance all 5 of these in accordance to both involved there is bound to be more trouble than is needed and you are simply setting yourself up to experience heart break and pain.
So what is love? There is unconditional love and there is conditional love. Conditional love is what most of us are involved in. It is love given in order to receive something in return. It is “I love you, but only when you act in a certain way. I love you if you do this and that. I love you because I need something from you.” This is pseudo love. It is poison. It is like smoking cigarettes. It destroys relationships slowly, but the love does die. Unconditional love on the other hand is love that is given without expectation of return and it is love that has no terms and conditions. Love given in this way is returned a thousand fold. Love means to respect, to understand, to trust, and to let go.
“The best way to give love is to get love, the best way to lose love is to hold onto it too tightly, the best way to keep love is to give it wings” Anon.
When you are born you are born whole and complete. You have all that you ever need in your life. However most people have this untrue belief that you need someone to complete you. John Gray, Author of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus says that you should find someone who should complement you and not supplement you. Get involved to share and not to take.
There is the Law in Chemistry that is called the Law of Conservation of Mass. It says that matter cannot be created or destroyed in a chemical reaction but change from one form to the next. When someone leaves us, we feel that we have lost so much, but in reality, nothing is ever lost. You partner maybe have been your best friend, given you hugs when you needed, made you laugh and always called you. Now that they have gone, you feel that you do not have this anymore. However on closer inspection you will find that you still have all of the above but now it is shared with not one but 4 other people. A new friend will walk into your life and be there for you. Your sister now hugs you more than before. Suddenly your neighbour just says the silliest of things making you laugh and your long lost friend calls you everyday. As you can see nothing is lost. But because we live in the past and hold onto old pattern and become addicted to how we received the above we become blind to it still being present.
There is three facets of a romantic relationship. You are either infatuated, you are in love or you are resentful.
When you are infatuated with someone you find more similarities with that person than differences. When you are resented, you find more differences than they are similarities.
When you are infatuated then you put them on a pedestal and worship them and make yourself feel less worthy than they are. When you are resentful you put them in pits and you look down upon them. Anytime that you are infatuated or resentful to someone that person occupies time and space in you mind and life. Therefore they end up running your life. If you let someone RUN your life they will RUiN your life.
When you are in love the hypothalamus releases feel good hormones that make you want to lick your partner like a candy stick. You become addicted to this feeling and you crave this “sugar”. You find yourself using words like sweetheart, honey, cupcake, sugar. When you resent them or hate them you go to the other end of your through gut system, what words do you use now? Asshole, you piece of shit, you “wasted” my time. The key is to a fulfilling relationship to meet half way in that gut system where you can “stomach” (tolerate them) that person with all the good and bad and accept and respect that person for who they are. Knowing that they are indeed human with both positive and negative traits. People are sitting around waiting for the perfect person to come along but everyone is indeed perfect. We have every single emotion there is. Love, Anger, Pain, Hatred, Joy, Hope. We have all of these emotions. A relationship is made up of support and struggle, attraction and repulsion.
If you love too much you destroy a relationship. If you hurt too much you also destroy a relationship. The key is to love and hurt in equal proportions maintaining a well balanced happy relationship.
“When there is an implosion of love in your heart there will be an explosion of love in you life.” Hitesh Surujbally
“I do not know the key to success, but I do know the key to failure, and that is trying to please everybody” Bill Cosby
What type of person are you? Are you the type that focus’s on pleasing yourself and others? Are you the type that pleases yourself only or are you the type that’s always trying to make others happy?
Let’s be frank. It is really a task trying to satisfy everyone with a decision you make or an opinion. Well you might think that you are right, they will think you are wrong.
What makes a right right? And a wrong a wrong?
Right and wrong are both philosophical polarities that have been interjected into our belief systems by our parents, the church, our peers and society.
Have you ever taken the time to think about how your actions may be right or wrong?
If I told you that if I could send you back into time to save all the victims from the tragedy of the Titanic would you do so?
“Well of course yes I would Hitesh. Why is that even a choice?”
So you go ahead and you save them all and this is what happens:
Your mother might have fallen in love with one of the survivors and married him instead of your father. You would not have been born.
One of the survivors on that ship went on to become a serial killer and a rapist.
Because of your heroism you became famous and of course with fame come wealth. You do wish to return back your present time and leave your wife and kids with no husband and father.
We live in a strange and funny world, where our insurance companies will not payout if someone shoots themselves in the head but will payout if you’re a smoker and die from lung cancer they will pay. What is the difference between the two? One is an instant death and the other a slow and gradual one. THE RESULT is the SAME. Just different tools with time being a major factor.
How come we don’t counsel our smokers and take drastic action when we see someone light up? Just have a think about that one.
I just want you all to take comfort in knowing and being rest assured yes, for every person you make happy, you make someone sad, be it indirectly or directly.
For every person that you motivate you also demodulate someone. For every person you may help you may hurt just as many. Every day has its night; every life has its death.
Such is the law of balance and such is the laws of the universe.
I say take comfort because when you find out one day you may have hurt someone, please don’t forget that person you have loved. You are a perfect balanced being in this universe and no matter what you do you are always loved by the Universe and Life is great!!!
Be great always,